Book Review: Love for Imperfect Things

Md. Jamal Uddin
4 min readAug 12, 2023

Love for Imperfect Things: How to Accept Yourself in a World Striving for Perfection is a self-help book by Haemin Sunim, a Zen Buddhist monk. The book argues that the only way to be truly happy is to accept yourself for who you are, your flaws, and all. Sunim shares insights from his own life and from Buddhist teachings to help readers learn to love themselves and live more compassionately.

Love for Imperfect things

The book is divided into three parts:

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Part One: The Imperfect Self explores the nature of imperfection and why it is so important to accept ourselves for who we are. Sunim writes about the different ways we can be imperfect, both physically and mentally, and how these imperfections make us unique and special. He also discusses the importance of compassion for ourselves, and how we can learn to love ourselves even when we make mistakes.

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Part Two: Relationships looks at how our relationships with others can be affected by our self-acceptance. Sunim writes about the importance of being honest with ourselves and with others, and how we can build more fulfilling relationships by being open about our imperfections. He also discusses the importance of forgiveness, and how we can learn to let go of our anger and resentment towards others.

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Part Three: The Imperfect World explores the challenges of living in a world that is constantly striving for perfection. Sunim writes about the importance of finding peace and happiness in the midst of imperfection, and how we can learn to appreciate the beauty of the imperfect world around us. He also discusses the importance of social activism, and how we can use our imperfect selves to make the world a better place.

Here are some of the key takeaways from the book:

Imperfection is a part of life: Everyone has flaws, both physical and mental. It is important to accept our imperfections and not let them define us.

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Self-acceptance is the key to happiness: When we accept ourselves for who we are, we can be more compassionate towards ourselves and towards others. This leads to greater happiness and fulfillment.

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Relationships are built on trust and vulnerability: When we are honest with ourselves and with others about our imperfections, we can build stronger and more fulfilling relationships.

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The world is an imperfect place: There will always be suffering and injustice in the world. However, we can still find beauty and joy in the imperfect world around us.

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We can use our imperfect selves to make the world a better place: By being kind, compassionate, and forgiving, we can make a positive impact on the world around us.

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Love for Imperfect Things is a beautiful and inspiring book that can help us all learn to love ourselves and live more compassionately. I highly recommend it to anyone who is struggling with self-acceptance.

Happy reading

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Md. Jamal Uddin

Software engineer passionate about building and delivering SaaS apps using React Native. Agile enthusiast who occasionally writes blog posts about life and tech